Title: "Bros Before Hos"
Author: Michael Kimmel
Date: 1998
Topic: Men and the rules that boys feel they have to monitoring how they act, talk, move, and think to be as least feminine as possible in order to be perceived as a man in society today by other men.
Analysis
In Michael Kimmel's writing titled "Bros Before Hos" he talks about the issues that boys in today's society face, and the expectations many of them feel they need to live up to. Kimmel explains how "The Boy Code leaves these boys disconnected from a wide range of emotions and prohibited from sharing those feelings with others" 616. Men are put into this thing mold when they're born, as a man they are perceived by society to be the masculine, dominant man that society sees most real men as. Kimmel elaborates when he says "The face that you not show to the world insist that everything is under control, that there's nothing to be concerned about" 609. Men must constantly be in check of all of their actions and thoughts so that have the approval of other men.
One of the worst fears for a man in today's society is to be perceived as gay, to be perceived as gay is the same to some men as having no masculinity to them at all. They have been trained by generations of bigotry that shines through in today's culture, everything can be compared to being gay. Kimmel puts it into terms by telling us " 'That's so gay'. It said about anything and everything dash they're closed, there book, the music or TV shows they like, or the sports figure they admire. 'That's so gay' as become a free loading put dash down, meaning bad, done, stupid, wrong. It's the generic bad thing" 612. The word has been so over used and said to mean so many different things, I think that it now even goes beyond the gay community. I see several people saying gay has two definitions, one for the slang term and the other meaning gay people, but this is not a significant impact to the younger people who fear saying the truth about their sexuality because of all the bad things they here. I wish we could take back the definition of the word gay in today's culture and at least make the slang word definition conceptually correct, the word gay should be used to call something gay if the object or action is in some way perceived as homosexual. Some would say that is just as bad, but in my opinion the actual definition of gay is better than it meaning stupid.
so what would that mean for a gay man in study today, surely not all gay men are depicted as bad wrong or stupid like how gay is so commonly used in today society. As a gay man I do not even I feel a as important quality in a man, there are many other characteristics in actions that make a boy turn into a man. A man has responsibilities, has people he needs to love, has drive, and direction for himself; masculine men are able to accomplish this, so is a regular man, or even a feminine gay man. I think it should be thought of mare as when a child becomes an adult, the two sexes should not have separate standards for when they can be seen by society as adults
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